Anchors

Anchors

Your can change your state of mind or mood easily using the techniques of anchoring. This means you can, for example, stay calm and relaxed whatever other people are doing or however provoking they may be. 

While NLP offers you techniques to create a desired anchor (see below), you are also already affected by anchors throughout your life and go into a good mood or a bad one … feel motivated to do one thing or to do another … feel confident and resourceful or the opposite. We are responding to anchors, but we may not know what they are. These anchors have been built up accidentally and some of them can be used in your favor even without knowing any techniques.

So it is worth investigating what resonates with you most. Very often this is connected to you preferred representational system (–> see VAKOG).

Being quite visual, pictures can work as an anchor (background pictures for your computer, a picture in your purse).

E.g. when I feel very tense and would like to get into some state of calmness and having a fresh mind, I like to remember an early morning hike on the Mount Batur in Bali (–> see Sunrise).

If you are (like I am) also a very auditory person, music playlist might help you to get into a desired state. I have playlists for all kinds of moods on my iPhone – one that helps me to be confident when I make a public appearance, one that gets me into a competitive mode when preparing for a tennis match, one to lift me up when I am down or one to calm me down when I am nervous.

For further reading:

https://nlp-mentor.com/nlp-anchoring/

https://trans4mind.com/personal_development/mindMastery/anchoring.htm

VAKOG

VAKOG

NLP looks at the ways we experience the world through our sensory organs. These representational systems are called VAKOG. VAKOG stands for:

visual seeing
auditory hearing
kinesthetic feeling
olfactory smelling
gustatory tasting

According to the NLP model, people use those five sensory channels with varying emphases. We each have a preferred way of representing the world to ourselves, a preferred representational system. E.g. some people are very visually oriented; information over the other channels have less impact.

For further reading:

https://www.landsiedel.com/en/nlp-library/representational-systems-vakog.html

https://psychology.wikia.org/wiki/Representational_systems_%28NLP%29

You can’t cling to the past …

You can’t cling to the past …

Another piece of “How I met your mother” life philosophy (see –> Right place, right time) and another view on that life might get understood backwards, but needs to be lived forward (see –> Life is today). So both seems to be close to me …

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Right place, right time

Right place, right time

Some life philosophy from “How I met your mother”. I like the idea that small causes may have large effects, so no step is too small to lead to a great result.

You could not remove a single grain of sand from its place without thereby … changing something throughout all parts of the immeasurable whole.

Johann Gottlieb Fichte

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Core Values

Core Values

Your values are the things that you believe are important in the way you live and work. Values exist, whether you recognize them or not.

When the things you do and the way you behave match your values, life is usually smooth.

But when you don’t act in alignment with your personal values, it creates tension and can be a real source of unhappiness. On the other hand you might (consciously or unconsciously) judge other people in view of your own values and to overlook the fact that these need not be theirs…

This is why making a conscious effort to identify your values is so essential. Use the following list of common personal values to help you get started.

  • Accountability
  • Achievement
  • Advancement
  • Adventure
  • Aesthetics
  • Affiliation
  • Authenticity
  • Authority
  • Autonomy
  • Awareness
  • Balance
  • Beauty
  • Boldness
  • Calmness
  • Challenge
  • Change and variation
  • Citizenship
  • Cleanliness
  • Collaboration
  • Commitment
  • Community
  • Compassion
  • Competency
  • Competition
  • Confidence
  • Connection
  • Consciousness
  • Consistency
  • Contentedness
  • Contribution
  • Cooperation
  • Courage
  • Creativity
  • Curiosity
  • Decisiveness
  • Dependability
  • Determination
  • Devotion
  • Dignity
  • Diligence

  • Discipline
  • Diversity
  • Duty
  • Economic security
  • Effectiveness
  • Empathy
  • Encouragement
  • Equality
  • Excellence
  • Experience
  • Expertise
  • Fairness
  • Faith
  • Fame
  • Family
  • Flexibility
  • Focus
  • Freedom
  • Friendships
  • Fun
  • Generosity
  • Gratitude
  • Growth
  • Happiness
  • Health
  • Helping others
  • Honesty
  • Humility
  • Humor
  • Independence
  • Influence
  • Inner Harmony
  • Integrity
  • Intuition
  • Justice
  • Kindness
  • Knowledge
  • Lawful
  • Leadership
  • Learning

  • Love
  • Loyalty
  • Meaningful Work
  • Mindfulness
  • Openness
  • Optimism
  • Order
  • Passion
  • Patience
  • Peace
  • Peacefulness
  • Perseverance
  • Persistence
  • Personal Development
  • Persuasiveness
  • Physical fitness
  • Pleasure
  • Popularity
  • Professionalism
  • Prosperity
  • Reason (or Logic)
  • Recognition
  • Religion
  • Reputation
  • Resilience
  • Respect
  • Responsibility
  • Sacrifice
  • Security
  • Self-Respect
  • Service
  • Spirituality
  • Stability
  • Status
  • Success
  • Trustworthiness
  • Wealth
  • Wisdom

Choose to be optimistic

Choose to be optimistic

Of course not so easy when you are stuck in darkness or just been hit by fate. So for me that does not mean that one need to be positive all the time. Sadness or fear serve a purpose. However, we are not meant to remain stuck in such a state forever. This is when it becomes helpful to find out what your options are. And most of the times there is more than one option.

When someone tells me that I only have two alternatives to choose from (or that something is “without alternatives”), I get suspicious. This is rarely the case. Once I realize my options, the Dalai Lame (or Bruce Lee) come into play.

“Choose the positive. You have choice, you are master of your attitude, choose the positive, the constructive. Optimism is a faith that leads to success.”

Bruce Lee

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